18 Ways Millennials Are Trying Very Hard Not To Repeat Their Parents’ Mistakes – BuzzFeed
The best of the internet, delivered straight to your inbox!”It’s a habit I picked up on and have worked really hard to correct because it’s so toxic.”BuzzFeed StaffNote: The below story discusses body dysmorphia. —D-Rich-88—Maleficent_Onion4133″My dad used to call me names and make fun of my weight when I was a teenager. He thought he could shame me into losing it. It did not work; in fact, it did the opposite.”—Embarrassed_Edge3992—the-bumping-post”Why do they do this? My mom would just dump on my brother and me about issues with my dad. But mainly, she would trash talk/complain about my grandparents, uncles, and aunts on both sides. It’s a habit I picked up on and have worked really hard to correct (talking about/complaining about people) because it’s so toxic.”—ARZPR_2003—MNcatfan—HighVibes87″I never understood this logic. My parents had three kids before adopting me, and they hated all of us. I mean, why didn’t you stop at the first one if you realized it wasn’t working?”—steffie-flies—Fatbeard2024″My mom dragged me to church every Sunday when I was younger. Eventually, I got to a point where I’d rather go work cows with my dad and get yelled at than go to church.”—No1caresanyway_21—Aggravating-Dig2022—Haramdour”This! My parents both worked about 60 hours a week with the commute. It’s great they have a lot of money for retirement, but they never got to come to my games. Now, I’m overcompensating by being my kid’s lead in sports and scouts, but still trying not to hover too much. It’s tough to balance making money and making time for the kids and, like, five minutes for yourself.”—OrganizedSprinkles—White_eagle32rep”My mother told me last year, in our first true conversation in years, that she and my father hit me when I was a kid because they ‘didn’t know what else to do.’ And my siblings (who did not receive said punishment) wonder why I’m no contact with my parents.”—CurbsideChaos—catbat12″Similar to this, but from the other end of the spectrum: I refuse to use food as a reward system like my parents did. Good report card? Happy meal. Finish my chores? Bowl of ice cream. My husband’s mom did the same to him, and we both went into adulthood with terrible eating habits driven by our brains being trained to need junk food to trigger our natural dopamine reward system. We both have struggled with our weight our whole adult lives. We have treats in moderation, but never as a reward for good behavior. When we told our pediatrician this, he practically gave us a standing ovation.”—FibroMancer—Riccma02—Brotega87″My mom is so much happier since my dad died. It’s sad to think he never got the chance to be happy without her in his life. They could have been two rad, happy people, but no, religious convictions about divorce took that possibility away.”—Kramanos—Sventhetidar”Mine had four. We were lower-middle class and, at times, below the poverty line, I’m sure. We were homeless at one point and staying at a friend’s place. In the ’80s and ’90s, people could just make a situation like that work. Three of us went to college, and we’re all doing fine. I feel like the same situation in the 2020s would have left us destitute and starving.”—HeftyFineThereFolks—Such-Swimming2109—daisy_nz—rhymnocerous”All of that! I got rewarded with money for my grades. Shoot, they don’t even send report cards home anymore, so unless I’m diligent with checking his grades online, I don’t know. I will be a little stricter when he gets to older grades, but who cares about elementary school?”—Wild_Manufacturer555—JustAnotherGoddess—Telemachus826″My mom would ‘only smoke in the kitchen’ as if it didn’t stink up the entire house.”—thehufflepuffstonerNote: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/claudiasantos/things-millennial-parents-wont-do
